A bride has divided opinion after announcing her nephew with autism could no longer be part of her wedding if he insisted on wearing his Spider-Man costume.
The woman says she asked her sister’s seven-year-old son Josh (his name has been changed) to be a ring bearer at the ceremony months before the wedding day, with both he and his mum agreeing he would like to take on the role.
But with the big day on the horizon, the bride said her sister called to say that Josh was going through of phase of refusing to wear anything other than his Spider-Man costume and throws an “absolute fit” when he’s asked to change.
His mum explained that he even wears it to school and said she had called to give her sister a “heads up” that Josh will therefore be wearing the superhero costume to the wedding.
The bride said: “I tell her absolutely not. I don’t care if he wears it during the reception, but I do not want Spider-Man walking down the aisle at my wedding and in all my photos.”
The comment led to an argument between the siblings and the bride told her sister she would have to make arrangements for Josh to have a babysitter during the ceremony if he couldn’t wear “something at least semi-formal”.
She added: “She huffed at me and told me I was being a complete bridezilla and ‘banning an autistic child from my wedding’.
“I’m not ‘banning’ him, I’m just insisting he wear normal clothes. She comes back, telling me I was essentially banning him because of his autism.
“My fiancé is backing me up but my sister and her husband are now threatening to not come to the wedding at all.”
It split opinion with others after she asked for advice on Reddit, with one person writing: “It’s your wedding, period. If you want a Spider-Man free wedding, you get a Spider-Man free wedding.”
A second said: “Your wedding, your rules. And requesting that the child attending wear appropriate clothes is not an outlandish request.”
But one person argued: “You stated you want your nephew in your wedding. Your nephew is autistic. This is who he is. This is part of him.
“In 10 years are you going to look back at your wedding photos and laugh that your nephew is wearing a Spider-Man costume or be sad because he’s not in it?”
Another added: “You asked an autistic child to be your ring bearer and then refused to accommodate an autistic child.”